January 2015

It’s the naked truth! Our relationships, beliefs and happiness stay inextricably intertwined. We make ourselves unhappy when we struggle to keep them separated, when we apply a disconnect while denying or pretending other than the naked truth, and especially when we force ourselves to comply with the required views of groups whose ideals we do not uphold. Feigning a belief for any reason increases stress. We suffer from that, and my Equatarian views tell me why we would all fare far better if we would dare to stand up for our natural inclinations rather than bury them for the sake of a job, argumentative family members, neighbors, peer groups, and all the other places and people we force ourselves to endure just so we can belong. But, the threat is real and we know it.

I don’t advise jumping off the wagon just because it doesn’t roll in quite the right direction. Use your fetid circumstances to quietly learn why you feel misplaced, and to discover what you really want from life. What is the naked truth about you? “Why bother with what seems so obvious?” you asked. Without that information, you will replace one undesirable set of conditions with another, and lose more than having a firm grip on your own driving forces will gain for you. The naked truth arrives not from someone’s mouth, but as flashes of insight containing informative glimpses you can recognize as meaningful to you. It comes from you as you show yourself the naked truth within your own being.

An important path to increased happiness will come with discovering where to belong. Your local library can be a big help. Pay attention to what attracts your interest and look also in related subjects. Ask questions of people you find browsing among those materials. Questions will get you farther than answers, but sincere offers to help find answers may gain friends for you. Also, the Internet has become a boon for displaced people. Writing my blogs has proved a tremendous aid to discovering the wide array of my own interests. Special interest groups flourish on sites like Yahoo and Google, hedonismNEWand at hidden places all over the Internet. Type applicable words into a search box and let yourself feel surprised. Don’t forget all the happy people blogging their tears away on sites they have put up as a creative way to share their interests with others. There, you will find an intelligent pool of people to follow and befriend.

I write fiction and nonfiction derived from my own discoveries with an aim to help others find their way across the fetid pools they suffer onto firm ground that will support a new outlook on life. You may fail to recognize many connections at first, wherever you begin. Don’t give up; don’t force it. It happens when you are ready for it. Forcing it will gain you nothing more than a new fetid pool in which you’ll feel more miserable than you are now. So, be careful. Read a lot (start right here). A book labeled ‘Fiction’ may present an important key insight to get you started. Happy, fruitful reading to you.


I felt very impressed by the way this blogger presented such rare information.

Roll to Disbelieve

One of the worst problems in Christianity involves how its adherents–largely taught and modeled by their own teachers and authority figures–get this idea that they know best. This knowledge is sometimes couched in “a word from the Spirit,” like some supernatural birdie whispered in their ears some arcane bit of knowledge, but not necessarily; it may be presented as some nugget of wisdom imparted to some lesser mortal by someone who knows much better what ought to be done in any given situation.

When the target of this exalted wisdom doesn’t quite feel the same way, then gaslighting often comes into play.

Gaslighting is an abuse tactic whose name came from an old movie (Gaslight, 1944)in which a man sets out to deliberately drive his new bride insane so he can get her committed to a mental institution–which will give him control of her fortune. One of the…

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